The world isn’t trying to sabotage you – maybe you are.
By Leslie K. Hughes
Is there something that you want in life but aren’t getting?
The job.
The partner.
The house.
The body.
The money.
The vacation.
It’s safe to say we have all experienced not getting what we want.
And it feels like shit.
We usually blame our boss, the dating scene, our busy schedule, our genetics, etc – something outside of us.
Well, that’s about to change. Because guess what?
The only reason you’re not getting what you want is because of YOU – the stories you’re telling yourself about yourself.
It shouldn’t be news that our minds are crazy powerful things.
Whether you fully subscribe to the concept of manifesting (more on this in a later post), or not, there’s no denying that we all create stories in our minds that affect the way our lives are.
My story
I used to be incredibly shy as a child – actually until I was 30.
Like I was so shy that my kindergarten teacher thought I wasn’t ready to move on to 1st grade. Not because I was behind scholastically, but because I was behind socially & didn’t really talk.
And though I did eventually start talking more as I grew up, I still subscribed to the belief that I was shy. That shyness became my story, my identity.
And that story spread like a disease to all areas of my life.
I struggled to make friends, I struggled to get the jobs I wanted – I struggled with countless things because of the story I kept telling myself: I am shy.
Then I hit a wall with my story at age 30.
I left behind my old identity and moved to Venice Beach by myself – a city I’d never really visited & a place where I didn’t know anyone.
I couldn’t hide behind the story that I was shy anymore. I needed to make friends to survive in this city.
And as soon as I stopped telling myself I was shy, I realized I actually wasn’t shy at all.
Just like that, my story changed and as a result, my entire life changed.
So what story/stories are you telling yourself that are holding you back?
We all have them.
Try this…
Here’s a little exercise to help you unwind & rewrite these stories:
- Think about something you want in life but aren’t getting. Nothing is too big or too small.
- Write down all the bullshit reasons why you aren’t getting it. a.k.a. blame it on other people/things/circumstances.
- Now burn or throw away those reasons because they aren’t actually the reason.
- Remind yourself the reason is YOU & the stories you’re telling yourself about why you aren’t getting what you want.
- Figure out what stories you want to tell yourself instead. Out with the old, in with the new. Rewrite your stories so they are setting you up to get exactly what you want. Because guess what? YOU CAN. As long as your stories are aligned, you can literally get whatever you want.
