Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level?
We are putting quickies and one-night stands on the back burner for a hot minute because it’s time to dive into tantric sex.
By Leslie K. Hughes
Looking to take your sex life to a whole new level of not just body but also mind? Then let’s chat about tantric sex.
If you’ve heard of tantric sex but aren’t exactly sure what it is, I’ve got you covered.
Think of this form of sex like a deep meditation that takes you to a new level of consciousness and connection with your partner, your surroundings, and yourself.
Don’t get me wrong – orgasms are great and all, but that’s not what tantric sex is all about. An orgasm with tantric sex is more like the cherry on top of an already epic experience.
Sound too good to be true? I promise it’s not.
The tantric approach to sex offers a journey that’s far more intentional, sacred, and, thus, magical. This practice goes beyond just the physical aspects of sex and taps into your mind, body, soul, and spirit to create a union that is otherworldly.
And trust me, it’s worth the journey.
So take a deep breath, and let’s embark on a tantric trip.
What is tantric sex?
Tantric sex is a practice that originated in ancient Hindu and Buddhist traditions.
The word “tantra” is a Sanskrit term that means “weave.”
This type of sex happens when the masculine and feminine energies in us weave together with all the forces in the universe to elevate our sexual experience, leaving us with something that transcends simply the physical aspects of sex.
In short, it is a form of deep meditative sex that takes your consciousness and connection to yourself, your partner, and your surroundings to a whole new level.
This makes it very different than your average sesh in the sack where, more often than not, the goal of that sexual union is to reach orgasm.
And there is no shame in that.
Orgasms feel incredible and boast some stellar benefits, such as reducing stress. (Check out the health benefits of orgasm and the health benefits of masturbation, too.)
However, there are times when you want to dig a little deeper (figuratively, but also if you want, literally) and make your sexperience something more intentional and sacred.
(And don’t worry – you will have orgasms in tantric sex that will literally blow your mind.)
Tantric sex takes you through all the sensations of the act – what you think, what you feel, your breath, your soul – and shares it with your partner and the universe.
The purpose of this type of sex is to go beyond your sense of self and create a union with all the life that exists outside of you.
Here’s another way to visualize it: tantric sex brings all your sexual energy and desires into alignment with your mind, body, and soul.
When you do this with a partner, sex becomes something so much more than reaching that orgasmic peak society has trained us to chase.
Aside from childbirth, tantric sex is the highest possible connection with another human being one can have.
It brings out your best self and your partner’s best self, which does wonders for you and your relationship.
It is this level of intimacy that leaves time and reality behind and takes you to another dimension where the only thing that exists is pure and true love.
The power that tantric sex holds is unfathomable until you try it for yourself. It will be the sex of your dreams.
How to have tantric sex
You may be surprised (and relieved) to hear that tantric sex doesn’t have to involve complex sex positions that leave you feeling less like a god/goddess and more like Gumby.
Rather, tantric sex can look like a number of different things.
It can be something as simple as a thoughtful and slow hug.
It can be light touches.
It can be revving your engines and speeding things up, only to slow them back down.
It can be getting present in your body.
It can be sensing the energy between you and your partner.
All sexual energy can be considered tantric if done correctly. And to do it correctly, you want to tap into breathwork to get that sexual energy flowing to all of the places. (Read all about one of Visceral’s favorite breathwork practices.)
The focus of tantric sex is beyond physical, beyond you, beyond your partner; rather, it takes you to a world where your highest pleasures exist.
If you are able to master tantric sex, it can last for hours.
Not sure how to get started?
The best way to start tapping into that tantric energy is to practice eye gazing.
This opens up vulnerability for both of you as you stare into the eyes of your partner with everything that you are, and nothing to hide behind.
Try gazing into each other’s eyes for at least two minutes.
Chances are good emotions will arise during this practice, but we like that. It means guards are being let down, and the connection is happening.
Let these emotions flow and feel all the feels.
From there, you can experiment with what feels right.
Maybe placing your hands on each others’ hearts, maybe a tantric massage, maybe right into the act of sex.
Flow with what feels good to you and your partner, because there is no right or wrong way to reach the enlightenment of tantric sex.
Tantra is a very personal journey, so follow your own yellow brick road and enjoy every magical stop along the way.
