HOW TO MEDITATE FOR BETTER Orgasms

You may think you’re having great orgasms, but wait until you introduce meditation into the mix. We chatted with a Venice, CA meditation studio for insight.

By Leslie K. Hughes

What if we told you that with some practice, you can turn those little meditation oms into big bedroom Os?

Well, you can. Except it’s not the type of practice you’re likely imagining.

It’s with the practice of meditation.

Darcie Odom of Venice, CA’s Mystic Journey explains it like this: meditation forces our nervous system to chill the f*** out so that we can reconnect to ourselves in truly powerful ways.

And it’s as simple or as complicated as you want to make it; meditation can take up as little or as much time as you want it to.

In other words, the power is in your hands — literally and figuratively, so let’s dig into our Q & A with Odom to get you on the path to the best Os of your life.

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Absolutely! I feel it’s possible to improve all aspects of our life through meditation and other spiritual practices.

Meditation calms our nervous system, along with the other systems in our body, which will naturally allow our minds and hearts to also slow down. It allows us to clear out old, stagnant, and sometimes “negative,” “dark,” or “toxic” energies from past experiences.

Practicing meditation, whatever kind, allows us to reconnect to our mind, heart, body, and spirit in profoundly powerful ways.

When we are holding onto energies from past experiences (sexual, emotional, and others), it truly inhibits what we are getting out of our sexual experiences, sometimes even creating havoc within them. We can unknowingly be attracting partners that are only adding to our past traumas and pains.

Many of us, including myself, have experienced this cycle. This is one of the reasons why consistently connecting and being in touch with ourselves is such an imperative aspect of the meditation experience.

Once we are able to do that, we can really begin to call in that which we truly need and desire from a partner, whether for sexual pleasure, a relationship, or something else. We are able to make our boundaries clear and be authentic in our expressions.

photo | @kellymaker

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As a beginner, there are many different approaches and paths to take, but I think the best way to find what works for you is to be open, inquisitive, and intuitive. Try out all varieties and modalities of meditation and find what resonates most for you, and then stick with that for a while.

It’s definitely ideal to both begin and strengthen your practice with a teacher or a friend, as many questions, reservations, and feelings can come up. Having a guide or confidant can offer a lot of relief and support.

Luckily, nowadays, we are able to find a local studio fairly easily, but if this isn’t accessible, there are always books, podcasts, and the world wide web. I often will meditate along with some of my favorite teachers on YouTube, but it’s important when doing this that you are making sure the teacher is in alignment.

When we are delving into our subconscious, it’s extremely important to be doing so in a safe space, with trusted sources.

photo | @the.pinklemonade

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We all fluctuate and are never perfect. Ideally, of course, every single day is optimal. This doesn’t mean that you need to wake up at 4:00 a.m. and sit for an hour, and always close your day with another hour of meditation (although this is the dream).

Even the most esteemed of gurus and teachers say that 20 minutes a day is really all we need. I have had periods of my life where I absolutely needed more than that, and in those times I will often give myself an hour or more, often in a salt bath as this naturally allows us to go deeper.

Other times, I won’t meditate for a week or more, but I will absolutely feel it in every fiber of my being and get back to it immediately.

If I find I am resistant to practicing meditation, I will at least do some yoga, or stretching, or subtle active meditation like simply observing my breath and thoughts and letting them go.

There are small things we can do to check in with ourselves without committing to a hard [meditation] schedule unless the commitment is the only thing that keeps you active with meditating.

Giving yourself grace is just as important as holding yourself accountable. Just always do your best and be flexible in your practice, without letting it drift away entirely.

photo | @ibaiacevedo

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I have had partners that do not meditate and partners that actively meditate, including my current one. It really always just comes down to the relationship, but from my experience, it can be a much more profound and complementary relationship if your partner is also practicing some form of meditation.

This doesn’t necessarily need to be the same type of practice as you, or even with you. Often times you will each resonate with different modalities and this is completely okay, as long as everyone is respecting each other and abstaining from pressuring each other in any way.

There are specific meditations that actually allow a stronger experience and connection if done with a partner, or partners, but this also doesn’t need to be limited to your sexual partner(s) for it to be beneficial.

A very common form of this is Tantra, but here in the West, we have a very twisted concept of all that Tantra entails. It is much more than just sexual positions, in fact, this is a very small aspect of the full practice.

When we are practicing independently, we will most definitely bring more to the table when it comes to our sex lives, and eventually, you are going to only be calling in those that are tapped in as well.

When you begin connecting with your truest self more, you can really begin to feel when others are not, and this can cause disturbances in any type of relationship.

This doesn’t mean that all people who do not meditate are bad and that all people who meditate are good, it just allows you to find and navigate what is best for you at any given time, so be attuned to that.

photo | @theromanticsofparis

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We actually have a world-renowned teacher, Dawn Cartwright, who hosts her own Tantra series here once or twice a year. Again, this is not limited to sex, but the workshop series is obviously very focused on the sexual and sensual side of meditation.

Other than that, any of our classes will improve your sex life indirectly, which for some people sometimes means abstaining for a while, and for others tapping into it.

As past experiences and traumas come up in Breathwork, Kundalini, Yoga, even Sound Baths, Intuitive Healing, and Psychic Development classes, it’s important to honor them and heal them before diving into something not meant for us.

However, as we release, we are also opening ourselves up for better, brighter, and more enriching experiences, including sexual ones.

Mystic Journey is a gallery in Venice, CA that specializes in crystals and also offers yoga and meditation classes. Darcie Odom is the Art Curator and Gallery Manager at Mystic Journey who studied meditation at a local Buddhist monastery and has worked and studied under top artists from around the world.