Looking to turn your phone sex sesh from awkward to ahhhh-inducing? Here are some hot tips that will help you feel comfortable getting down via the phone.

By Leslie K. Hughes

In order to make your phone sex convos not awkward, you’re going to have to accept this one thing: the first few moments of phone sex will always be awkward. There is really no escaping potentially giggle-inducing, possibly painful phrases such as “what are you wearing?” 

However, there are some things you can do to prep for your virtual sex sesh that will help you blast right through the opening awkwardness and to the meat of the action. 

Read on to find out what you can do to turn those cheeks red from embarrassment to cheeks red from the heat of your convo.

Start with sexting

Nothing will take the arousal right out of your sexy sails quicker than going in for a steamy phone sex chat only to find the person on the other end of the phone isn’t in the mood. 

Whether it’s because they’re not feeling it at the moment, or they’re stuck in a meeting at work, it’s best to save yourself the harsh rejection by starting the convo off with a sexy text. 

Plus, this gives you the perfect opportunity to turn the heat up ahead of time so that you’re both on the same level when you level up to the phone call.

Consider sexting your phone sex foreplay.

Continue the slow build

One surefire way to kill that carnal fire during phone sex is by jumping straight to “I’m fu**ing you right now.” Just like sex IRL, you need to work your way up to the actual act of sex. 

And this is where the fun happens. Tease, please, and take your time to build up the anticipation. 

Remember: it’s not just about the destination, it’s also about the journey.

Don’t overthink

Some people are more vocal in the bedroom, and others are not. No way is right or wrong — it’s all about personal preference.

However, when it comes to phone sex, you’re gonna have to get outside of your comfort zone and get talking. Otherwise, it’s just a self love sesh with your phone in your hand and some heavy breathing on the other end.

If the thought of “talking dirty” doesn’t feel like it’s in your wheelhouse, we are going to go ahead and tell you you’re wrong. The only thing that may not be in your wheelhouse is feeling comfortable spewing those risque words.

However, by putting your overthinking on the backburner, you’re going to have no problem getting that sexy fire going.

When it comes to phone sex it is imperative that you don’t waste your time thinking about what you’re going to say. Rather, let it flow naturally; turn your brain off and let your lust lead the way. 

Phone sex with your partner is meant to be a judgement-free zone, so even if you say something that immediately has you feeling embarassed, brush it off and move on. Throw in a “You like that?” or “Tell me what you want me to do” and any previous awkwardness will be forgotten. 

And keep in mind that simpler is almost always better. Stick to short, quick phrases rather than trying to create a perfectly poetic, sexy sentence that’s going to leave your partner wondering what the hell you’re actually saying.

Live out fantasies

Have some sexual fantasies that you’re not sure will ever become reality? Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to put the spotlight on these deep desires and give them their 15 minutes of fame. 

Phone sex is the ideal risk-free opportunity to live out that fantasy of getting down and dirty in public, having a threesome, or any other erotic dream that you don’t have plans of actually living out IRL. Or maybe you do have plans of doing it, but want to do a fun little test run first.

Turn to role play

If you’re struggling with the idea of being yourself during phone sex, try ditching your identity and taking on someone else’s. Come up with a role play scenario for you and your partner, get into character, and watch as the story unfolds, with you in the spotlight.

You and your partner may be so pleased with the performance that you decide to incorporate roleplay beyond just phone sex. 

Listen

It takes two to tango during sex, so whether that sex is in-person or over the phone, you’ve got to listen to your partner. Don’t make your virtual sesh only about what you want — make sure the lucky one on the other end of the phone is getting what he or she wants too. 

This can be as simple (and sexy) as saying, “I’ll do whatever you want” and letting them express their deep desires to you in a safe space free of judgement. Which leads us to our next piece of advice . . .

Don’t do anything you don’t want to

You may find things getting a bit outside of your comfort zone during your sexy phone sesh, and either that is going to turn you on even more, or it’s going to bring your convo to a screeching halt. 

There is no shame in whatever fork in the road you take, but if it’s the latter and you find yourself not wanting to continue down the phone sex road, then don’t. Phone sex isn’t fun for anyone unless both parties are feeling the heat, so if you hit a point where your fire has turned into ice, tell your partner you’re over it.

But if you’re stoked about this offroading opportunity, then strap in for a wild ride.

Next time you’re feeling turned on and your partner is just a phone call away, take a few moments to re-read these tips so that you can tap into your sexy self and tap some fabulous a**.